Chatting gives you a chance to actually have a conversation with prospective dates. You can use the chance to share your personality and get to know them better. You can exchange pictures and let them learn about you as a person. You can even chat with people in your area. However, turning a chat experience into a face-to-face meeting is more difficult than you might realize.
People on chat are often engaging in a social environment. They love the ability to have conversation and enjoy each other’s online company. They act silly, say what they want and flirt away but many of them are not interested in actually meeting someone in real life. What they are interested in is avoiding boredom.
People talk big in chat rooms but aren’t willing to meet you unless a considerable time has elapsed. They have to feel comfortable and feel as though a real relationship is sparking. Not only do they have to desire a relationship but they also have to be brave enough to actually take the offline leap.
Don’t get fooled by all the flirting, talk about sex and joking about meeting. The online environment is a safe place while meeting in public is taking most women out of their comfort zone. To meet you is at their own personal risk and many aren’t willing to try it.
The best way to really get people to meet you in public is to take some time to develop an online relationship. Don’t pressure them or joke about all of your sexual exploits. It is much better to have them feel that you are a nice guy and safe to be around. It might be fun to engage in all the innuendos but unless they are interested purely in sex it isn’t likely to work in the long run.
When you do get the chance it is always best to meet in a public place. Drive yourself there and drive yourself back. Don’t let them know where you live or places you like to hang out until you know them better. You have to be cautious with people whom you know nothing about. They have no connections to anyone you know and there is little ability for law enforcement to track these people back if something happens.
It is also a good idea to let someone know where you are going and when you will be coming back. Even better it is a good idea to let someone call you in the middle of the date to make sure that everything is alright. Work out a plan to let your friend know if you leave the designated meeting place.