For those of you who are like a large majority of today’s “thirtysomething” and older crowd, you may have found yourself once again forced back into dating. If this describes your current status, you may have also decided that the bar scene is no longer somewhere you want to be. If this is the case, online dating may be for you.
I personally tried this for a while and it was not so bad, much better than the alternative dating spots. If you find someone who interests you, yet not romantically, you might find a good friend. Sometimes a member of the opposite sex, who is also a stranger, can be your best asset. If you can find someone fun to talk with, take the time to ask what you may have did wrong in your dating approach.
Why did I quit online dating? I found the love of my life online and got married! He had been living fifteen minutes away and we never meet until we saw each other online. Now, I would like to share some of the things that I learned along the way.
There are many different “types” of dating sites to choose from, so first you need to decide exactly how much of a relationship you are looking for. Some may be looking to just “hook up,” while others may be looking for something long term.
Try some of the more reputable sites first to see if someone catches your eye. Many of these sites are free, or may have trials long enough for you to “shop around”. Social websites are also a place to meet people that may seem interesting and share some of your hobbies. Once you decide on which network interests you, join it and get to work!
First, submit your personal profile. This will be how you describe yourself to others who may be interested in getting to know you. This is not rocket science, and not something you should have to think about for any length of time. All you need to do is be honest. Do not describe yourself as tall, blonde, blue-eyed, and thin, if you are short, auburn, green-eyed, and heavy.
If you are actually wanting to meet someone, they will figure out if you bend the truth when you do get together.
When you browse through the dating prospects, be careful of those that sound too good to be true. There is a good chance that they may have stretched the truth when describing themselves on their profiles.
While it is important to be careful about giving out your personal information, do not be so uptight that you possibly pass up some good dating opportunities. A great way to get to know someone better is by getting, or giving, a phone number. If you are uneasy about your home phone number being known, give a cell number. It is less personal and easier to block out unwanted callers.
During the time I tried online dating, I met some nice guys, and even got together with a friend from high school that I had not seen in twenty years. Then I found my one true love, now my husband, and I am happier than I ever would have dreamed possible.
Do not spend all of your time alone, get online and see who may be just around the corner from where you live. Take a chance and try online dating for yourself. You have nothing to lose, and with any luck, possibly everything to gain.